It's College; Grow Up!

After my incident on Monday (removing a student from class), I remain a bit stunned. A few students in that class stayed afterwards on Wednesday to apologize for their classmate and express their shock at the outburst (the student's, not mine, though mine was probably louder). The next morning, I had an alert that a student in a different class had dropped it. Not only was the accompanying note obviously written his parent, but also it left me with the belief that many parents don't understand when to let go; of course, parents always want to (and should) be supportive of their children, but there are ways that's appropriate for adult children -- and where it isn't. I believe the parent's comments regarding the student's class withdrawal fall into the latter category. Whether a student is taking developmental or standard college classes, and as much as people joke about freshman year being "13th grade", parents' lack of letting their kids make their own choices and be responsible for the consequences is doing the kids a real disservice. This student, and probably his parents, are a long way from understanding that. I probably shouldn't, but I'm posting the note below, with PII (personal identifying information) removed. I would be interested to know your thoughts on the matter. Again I will remind you that this is college (and there is plenty of help; they just have to ask for it).

There should be more support for students with an Intellectual and Physical disability. Professors, should reach out and work closely with parents in these instances to ensure the success of special need students.
Reason:	[Student] is a student with an intellectual & physical disability. He graduated from [High School] in 2015. He was in the ESE program his school career and has an IEP. [Student] wanted to take college classes, however there is far less support then he is used to; therefore he is unable to keep up with the class work and/or even understand what is being taught. No support for disabled students.