Niceness

Whenever I hear someone say, "I guess I'm just too nice," I roll my eyes. I don't believe there's any such thing. When people make statements like that, what they usually mean is, "I keep doing things for those who don't appreciate them," or, "I do things for others at the expense of hurting myself or keeping toxic people in my life." Maybe that sounds harsh. I always try to be nice, but being nice is not the same as being a doormat. Besides that, and I know this will sound hokey, doing something without a pure heart is not very nice. I'm not sure why it's easier for some people to be nice than for others, or why some people feel a need to play the martyr.

I recently talked with a friend who has found herself in a rather toxic relationship. She is worried about the other person's feelings -- without seeming to care too much about her own. She is uncomfortable with this person, but continues to get together with him because she feels he needs her. I don't want to get into specifics -- whatever I choose to share here about my own life is my business, but I try to respect the privacy of others -- but I will say that she knows she is in a bad position and hasn't known this person very long. My belief is that if she doesn't nip it in the bud, and soon, she going to find herself in a real emotional quagmire. I'm not judging, just observing.

My thought was that I was actually going somewhere with this, but it's been a long week. I suppose that's all I have to say, for now, on the subject.