Have you ever done something you believed prudent, only to be sorry about the results? Well, I'm feeling that way today. Is it unreasonable to Google someone you start dating? I don't think so. I know when I Google myself, everything checks out. What has me concerned in this case is not that I found anything bad about the man with whom I had a first date yesterday; it's that I found absolutely nothing. I went to the county website and looked him up in the property records too. Nothing there. Yesterday he told me that he has lived here ten years and owned property. There is no record of anything under his name -- or at least the name he gave me. I even went so far as to go to one of those paid sites (where searching a single name costs a whopping $1.95) and again found nothing.
Now, it's possible that I watch too much Catfish or that I am, for whatever crazy reasons, sabatoging myself, thinking of reasons to get out of something that hasn't even started yet. Am I being paranoid? I don't know. I even told the guy yesterday that part of why I need to ease into this is that in previous relationships (one, in particular) I have missed red flags, and now I see red flags everywhere. So for the moment, I'm going to sit on this information, or rather lack of information, and try to figure it out. I suppose my dilemma is this: If he really is who he says he is and isn't hiding anything, I could be screwing myself out of a decent relationship; if he isn't -- or if I continue to have doubts that I don't voice -- I'll feel like I'm putting myself in a bad situation.
Honestly, I'm not sorry I looked, no matter what I did (or didn't ) find out. I don't want to be crazy here, but I do want to be safe.
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