Explaining

Maybe I've written about some of this before, but my best friend posted something on Facebook this morning that made me think more about it. (I'll post the link at the end of my post.) I've been told by more than one person that I don't need to apologize or explain myself as much as I do, and I know it's true. I think that women, in particular, of generations up to mine (and maybe beyond) aren't expected to say no when asked to do something. I know for me that has been a hard habit to break, and even when I do say no, I often feel inclined to offer apology or explanation -- or both. I've spent a lot of time over the years working on that. My friend, who is the same age as I and hence (obviously) from the same generation is masterful at turning down requests or demands that infringe on her personal wishes and/or her family time. For that, I envy her.

While I find some of the advice in this article a little hokey, I have to agree with the overall premise. And I will continue to strive to believe the idea behind the words, and to live by them. Right now an important tidbit for me is that I don't have to say (or act like) I feel fine when I really don't. My foot hurts like a son of a bitch as I get back to walking on it, and if I want to be left alone, I can say that without apology or explanation. I'll leave it to you to see if any of these words of wisdom apply in your life.

http://www.powerofpositivity.com/20-things-you-dont-owe-anyone/